A major misunderstanding is to believe that others are guilty for your sufferings, that you suffer because of them. In reality all reactions to the world take place in your inner sphere. It’s not the world that needs to change - instead, your inner reactions need to.
This teaching is about the next step - beyond mindfulness. With the use of awareness in active form you don’t just notice, but are able to influence, directly. For example, you can use your consciousness to release the autopilot of emotions from your system.
Only through the use of awareness can you reach the True Self.
When thinking stops, you become thoughtless. But, what is left? What is that? What is that silence?
Have you noticed how the thinking mind works? We hear something, we comment. See or smell something - again comments. We comment everything, like children. All the time. And you believe it’s normal? Why?
There is only one goal in yoga: to restore a human to their rightful position in the hierarchy of creation and learn to direct life consciously, not to be driven by it. And of course, to reach one’s roots. To reach one’s actual potentiality.
Instead of emotions and the thinking mind, awareness should be placed as primary.
Life is not complicated. We ourselves make it complicated. There are three main reasons for that: untamed and random movement of awareness, automatic thoughts that do not correspond to reality and automatic emotions. These components also make up the list of things to gain freedom from.
When using awareness, that itself is neutral in nature, one experiences neutrality. To be neutral means to be adequate. It means to see events as they are – without glorifying, devaluing, distorting or changing them in any way.
Ignorance – this is the darkness. The goal is to become a seer. Only the one who is aware, a user of consciousness, is able to see.
Change starts from purifying the inner sphere. To release automatic emotions and concepts is the most important activity of all activities.
What happens to your problems, to your issues, if the accompanying emotion ceases to exist?
Your most important step towards stability and happiness lies in cleaning the inner sphere – consciously releasing your subconscious of the problematic reactions you once learned from others.
To be aware of your consciousness means to be in a state that is outside of karma.
If you prolong the process of noticing or become aware of your awareness, you become the user of consciousness. To remain aware, you need to continue using it.
Using awareness forms the foundation – your „eyes open up“. The picture becomes clear. This is why it has also been called enlightenment. This is the light – application of awareness.
The duration of your use of consciousness corresponds to the duration of your freedom. Rest of the time autopilot dominates, a program where everything is pre-set.
When you remain with noticing, the world opens up – you notice sounds, sensations etc. Every moment is a new discovery. As soon as you allow the subconscious to take over, your world collapses into being operated by programs, one after another.
In order to actually improve, there is little use from learning fascinating things or traveling to someplace in hope of experiencing something. Those bad things that you already have don’t disappear, do they? To become free of this weed, you need to outroot it, not just plant other plants next to it.
To discover True Self is the main goal for every person all over the world. To discover True Self means to reach the end of your search. Not just your current search for answers, but your infinite search. This is the ultimate solution, self-realization.
Once an automatic reaction is consciously released, it will never occur again. It’s disturbing influence in your life ceases completely.
You are taught that sufferings are a “normal” part of being human. Actually, they are absolutely abnormal. You can easily release them, be without them. Life without negative emotions is not only possible, but indeed natural for all people.
You only cling to positive emotions, because you don’t have any idea, that exists something even better, than good emotions.
Consciousness has seven active qualities, awareness being one of them. As phenomenas, the qualities of consciousness have nothing to do with emotions or thinking, the mind.
Mind and thinking do not form the cornerstone of wisdom, being smart. Instead, that cornerstone is your consciousness. Use of consciousness in active form is what makes humans smart, the true Homo Sapiens.
The life you live today is already robot-like, directed by automatic reactions - both good and bad ones.
You can change yourself only by practically doing it. Theory and opinions alone have little practical value.
However exquisite the emotions, high or important thoughts, none of them help you to reach awareness nor primordial True Self. The mind can only be of temporary use while purifying the subconscious.
What we consider to be our personality is the set of our most frequent reactions. Personality consists of emotions, thoughts and the resulting behavior. If you know how to change these components, a change in personality immediately follows.
The moment of an insight is the moment when God turns towards you with a smile.
In current worldview it is assumed that the brain produces consciousness, matter is considered as primary. According to my research, I propose a view that differs 180 degrees - the brain does not create consciousness. Consciousness is the base of your existence, it already exists and creates all else.

Ingvar Villido. Acharya Ishwarananda

February 2016 - Ingvar Villido: When living as your True Self, you are already happy and can become free of the endless circle of trying to achieve happiness – news portal Delfi

Interview by Ingrid Peek. Published in alkeemia.delfi.ee, February 2, 2016.

Ingvar Villido, teacher of the Art of Conscious Change, talks about happiness, but also on other topics, like why we are comparing ourselves with other people all the time and how to become free of this tendency, as well as about egoism, the ’para me’, inferiority complex and healthy self-esteem.

Self-esteem is an issue of great importance. It can slide out of balance both ways and, when crossing a certain point, turn either into self-centered egoism or, on the contrary, into a feeling of inferiority, making the person ask „Why am I not as good as others?“ Self-exposing which is so common now in the social media gives the impression that everyone’s life is just great, but it also makes people continuously compare themselves with others, which may result in feeling oneself somehow inferior. So, why is it that we compare ourselves with others all the time? Where does this come from and what does it do to us?

The reason for this is actually quite simple. Already from early childhood, we have been taught to compare ourselves with others. We are told: look at what he is like, and look what you are like! This is where it starts from, and then it just goes on and on until we die. While it is true that on the one hand, it can be kind of unhealthy, on the other hand, it can also be good – if it inspires.

I would say that it is a means of influencing. In case you are confident in what you do and in the way you do it, then all is good. But in case you lack such confidence, you can be quite easily influenced.

But how to achieve this freedom from continuously comparing oneself to others?

I would first ask, why should I compare myself to others at all? What does it give me? I can understand when you compare your skills in doing something and see that someone can do it better, and this motivates you to improve your own skills. In that case, it is understandable. But when such comparison only ends with an emotional reflection and makes the person feel bad, it does not have any positive effect- neither does it bring along any change for the better nor motivate you to improve yourself.

I don’t compare myself to anyone. Of course I look at what other people do and what knowledge they have – sometimes there are things worthwhile of learning which I can learn and use myself in the future. Therefore, it can be concluded that on the one hand, comparing can be detrimental, but on the other hand, it can be educative. Nevertheless, the idea that a person must be better than others in our competitive society has been firmly imprinted on us.

Such unhealthy comparing quite often leads to an inferiority complex. What is an inferiority complex, in your opinion?

According to what I teach people, inferiority complex is rather simple. It consists of certain ideas or thoughts that the person believes to be true, and the respective feeling or emotion. In case a person has this specific set of ideas and emotions, and it is active, then this is how the person feels. There are no big secrets here and it quite easy to become free from this if you know how to do this. Certainly, one should not deny or suppress it, nor live it through somewhere where others cannot see. It does not help, and can even make it worse.

But what is egoism? It is often said that it is a really bad thing, because it means that one thinks oneself to be better than others. But there are also those who claim that egoism is really good, because this way you appreciate and take care of yourself. So, can you tell us what is it, then?

It depends entirely on your point of view. In the ordinary sense, an egoist is someone who does not care about others and who takes only his own interests and activities into account in his actions. However, egoism also has a deeper and quite different meaning. In that sense, egoism is a ’para’ person, which is to say, it replaces the person’s True Self. It is a phenomenon occurring in the mind.

For example, you are thinking, and at one point a question arises in your mind: who is the one thinking? Is it me, or is the thought just spinning on its own? And in that case, who is Me – am I just the observer of the thought?

When you witness your thought from such observer’s position, you may discover that your thought is egocentric. It means that there is always ’me’, ’mine’, ’I want this’ or ’I don’t want this’, ’I must’ etc. in it. The ’me’ component stands out in the prominent position everywhere. And now, when you have a look at this whole set of ’me’-thoughts, you can see that it forms an entire conglomerate, which is very hectic and informative, and it may seem that this is what the self actually is. Usually, people regard this to be their real self.

It is worth noting, though, that witnessing one’s own thoughts like this gives an entirely different sort of experience. You come to understand that there is another, and quite different ’me, who represents you in everything, acting on your account. Now, when you look at this whole set, then this is the ’ego’, or the false ’me’. You can ask yourself whether it all really represents you, and you may find that it does not represent you at all. Actually, one’s thoughts do not represent one’s True Self most of the time.

How to achieve healthy self-esteem and self-confidence?

There is an abundance of formulas, to be sure, but in principle, it can be said that all such recommendations are based on some idea which is also accompanied by some emotion. They act as a substitute in certain times. But there are also times when they do not help, and for some people, they never have any effect at all.

Now, as to the fundamental change, one might indeed ask why do I actually need it? Why do I need mental and emotional confidence? Might it be that the confidence could also be of an altogether different kind – the kind which cannot be swayed by complexes nor other people?

Here, I usually suggest to replace it with activity-centeredness. This means that when you are doing something, do it in the best possible way, that is, by concentrating on the activity at hand. If you conduct all your activities this way, the results will speak for themselves. Afterwards, you can evaluate yourself whether it has been done well or whether you have messed things up in some way, while being aware of it yourself. I would suggest using activity-centred self-esteem which is authentic and real, as well as practical and does not depend on others’ opinion, because you yourself know how you did it. Such confidence develops in a person depending on what he or she does and is aware of. This is a slightly different version of self-confidence, but it is unswayable. I think this is a really good way, because we are acting all the time anyway. When you are not acting with your hands, you are acting with your mind or emotionally. People are very activity-centred.

How to be happy? What is the formula for happiness?

In course of my life and when doing different practices, I have examined all kinds of formulas for happiness – and I can tell the world is just full to the brim with them. But when you take a closer look at the underlying principle which they are usually based on, you can see that in a way it is like receiving something – that is, you need to receive something in order to be happy. It can be anything – a pay rise or someone’s kind look or enjoying the nature. Whatever it is, in any case you need to receive something. In case you fail to receive it, there are two possibilities: either it leaves you indifferent or makes you suffer. Of course this ’getting something’ can also be created by yourself. For example, you imagine something pleasant and then feel good, or remember good times and become happy again – because again you have received something.

Such dependence of receiving being related to the feeling of happiness is global. But I can tell that you cannot build up anything permanent on those grounds, because receiving presumes that you need to keep on receiving all the time – it cannot end. Today’s consumption society is also founded on this principle of endless receiving.

Actually, it is a very important principle, because everyone wants to be happy. When I looked into this, I actually found an entirely fundamental final solution. This solution is the person’s own self, or the True Self. When you have discovered your real self, you have received yourself for yourself. In that case, you possess this happiness independently. You no longer need to create it, because it is already there.

When you are as your True Self, you already are happy. No other happiness needs to be added here any longer. Not because you don’t want to, but because this happiness does it itself. The need to get additional happiness from somewhere ceases. It also makes the person peaceful, but does not in any way restrict the experiences we receive from the world. Simply the call to consumption leaves you indifferent then and you can get out of this endless circle that tries to make you happy all the time.